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LESSON 7: WISDOM CONTROLS THE TONGUE

Sitting in a small Indian village in Brazil with a half dozen other men under a thatched roof shelter, I couldn’t believe my good fortune. We were about to have the opportunity to hear from an Indian pastor with more than forty years of experience preaching the gospel in some of the most remote parts of Brazil, in tribal communities where a white man like me would never be allowed to set foot. His grandfather had been one of the first of their tribe to come to faith in Jesus. This man had stories to tell and I was anxious to hear them. Unfortunately, a younger, less experienced brother that we had brought with us from the city, thought that this was his opportunity to “one up” the pastor by sharing secondhand missionary stories he had heard at a missions conference! It was all I could do to guard my own tongue to keep from telling him to just shut it. How foolish he was making himself look. What an education he was missing out on, but he continued undeterred. My embarrassment for him made me squirm in my seat. Lesson number one: the wise listen and add to their learning. You know what you know. Repeating it out loud simply to have something to say or to attempt to impress others is the height of foolishness and adds nothing to your understanding.

Sadly the tongue can do even more harm than just to stifle our learning. It can cut down those we love, destroy relationships, cause division, foolishly commit us to an unwise course, and heap dishonor on ourselves, our family, and the people of God. I could go on. James says, “The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one’s life on fire.” This same tongue we use to sing praises, to pray, to profess our love for others, and preach the gospel, is a dangerous piece of equipment to ourselves and those around us, if not kept in check by the Holy Spirit.

So the next time you are at a dinner party make it your goal to listen and add to your wisdom. And when you do speak you “should do so as one who speaks the very words of God” (1 Peter 4:11). Words that build others up and bless our Father in heaven.

BIG IDEA: Wisdom listens more than it speaks.

MEDITATING ON THE WORD:
Proverbs 13:1-3
James 3:1-11
Proverbs 10:19, 12:15, 17:27, 19:20, 29:20

SECTION VERSE:
Then you will understand what is  right and just and fair—every good path. For wisdom will enter your heart, and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul. – Proverbs 2:9-10

LESSON VERSE:
People who are careful about what they say will save their lives, but those who speak without thinking will be destroyed. – Proverbs 13:3

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:

• Read Proverbs 13:1-3 out loud and discuss, verse by verse. Repeat with James 3:1-11.
• Have you ever said something you wish you hadn’t?
• How can we guard our mouths? How?
• Why is it better to listen than it is to speak?
• How can you apply what you learned in Quest this week?

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ABOUT FAMILY QUEST: At Reston Bible Church, we firmly believe that parents are a child’s first and most important spiritual leader.  In order to support you that mission, we have created a parent devotional and some discussion starters to go along with each lesson your grade school age children are learning at Quest on Sundays. Our hope and prayer is that this material will help you to engage with your children around the topics they are learning on Sunday mornings, answer their questions, go deeper with them, and find real, day-to-day applications. We are honored to be able to partner with you in the critical task of sharing Christ with the next generation.

LESSON 6: WISDOM IS HONEST AND DILIGENT

It is easy to complain about having to work when you have unpleasant work to do, but become unemployed or be completely idle without anything meaningful to accomplish and the attitude changes dramatically. We were created to work. Work is a blessing, not a curse. In Genesis 2:15 we see God’s plan before the fall, “The Lord God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it.” Work includes your vocation, as well as your studies, your chores around the house, and your service in the body of Christ, the church. If work is a blessing from God then we should expect to see some instruction regarding the quality or character of our work. As with other blessings, there is a principle at work in work. When our work is done diligently, with excellence and honesty, we, generally speaking, will enjoy success in our endeavors. “Work hard and become a leader, but laziness will end in forced labor.” “Whoever walks in integrity walks securely, but whoever takes crooked paths will be found out.”

It seems like a lot of rules to keep track of and follow. Be honest. Be diligent, Be hardworking. The good news is that God provides us the key to unlocking the blessing of work and it is a key that we can and should pass along to our children. “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving,” Colossians 3:23-24. Wisdom recognizes that it is God who has ultimately blessed us with the work we have to do. Wisdom recognizes that He is the one we desire to please with our integrity, our honesty, and our diligence. When you are a child of the living God there is no secular work. Our studies, our vocation, our chores, and our service to the body has been set apart, sanctified, to honor our heavenly Father. Wisdom recognizes the joy and victory to be had in working as unto to the Lord and rejoices in the blessing.

BIG IDEA: Wisdom is honest and hardworking.

MEDITATING ON THE WORD:
Proverbs 10:1-9
Proverbs 12:24
Colossians 3:23-24

SECTION VERSE:
Then you will understand what is  right and just and fair—every good path. For wisdom will enter your heart, and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul. – Proverbs 2:9-10

LESSON VERSE:
Whoever walks in integrity walks securely, but whoever takes crooked paths will be found out. – Proverbs 10:9

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:

• Read Proverbs 10:1-9 out loud and discuss, verse by verse. Do the same with Colossians 3:23-24 and Proverbs 12:24.
• How do you feel when you finish a job well? Not well?
• How can doing all your work for Jesus change how you feel about work?
•  How can you apply what you learned in Quest this week?

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ABOUT FAMILY QUEST: At Reston Bible Church, we firmly believe that parents are a child’s first and most important spiritual leader.  In order to support you that mission, we have created a parent devotional and some discussion starters to go along with each lesson your grade school age children are learning at Quest on Sundays. Our hope and prayer is that this material will help you to engage with your children around the topics they are learning on Sunday mornings, answer their questions, go deeper with them, and find real, day-to-day applications. We are honored to be able to partner with you in the critical task of sharing Christ with the next generation.

LESSON 5: A LIGHT IN THE DARKNESS

Have you ever woken in the night and, not wanting to wake anyone, left the lights off while you groped your way around the house to the bathroom or to get a glass of water? Your eyes are adjusted to the darkness so you can get around reasonably well, for the most part not smashing your shins on anything, and find your way to familiar rooms. However, if you have had small children you probably also remember them leaving sharp and pointy objects in places they don’t belong. Your eyes, even with your night vision, aren’t sharp enough to pick up those dangers lurking in your path. Nothing hurts quite like a lego on a barefoot under your full body weight. Of course turning on the lights would have averted all of that danger.

In life we can deceive ourselves into believing that we are in the light because we are not “living like the world,” when in fact we may be walking in self-imposed darkness. Because we have lived so long in this present darkness, that is the fallen world, our spiritual eyes may have adjusted, giving us the false sense that we can see clearly. The apostle John tells us to “walk in the light as He is in the light.” God is “light” he goes on, and in Him is no darkness at all. Not even a little. How do we turn on the lights and keep them on? First by recognizing our condition before our Father and then by having fellowship with Jesus, the Light of the world, the living Word of God. David says as much in Psalm 119:105, “your Word is a lamp for my feet and a light to my path.” All wisdom begins and ends with submitting to God’s word, His plan, His sovereign will. Every other thing that sets itself up as wisdom is a cheap imitation “for the foolishness of God is wiser than human wisdom.” As we offer our bodies and our minds to God in the word and in prayer he is faithful to transform our darkness into His light, “for even darkness is as light” to our God. Having the very mind of Christ means having a divinely illuminated mind that sees the world and all of its pitfalls through the eyes of the Creator. Turn on the lights and help our children to do the same.

BIG IDEA: Wisdom is a light in the darkness.

MEDITATING ON THE WORD:
Proverbs 6:12-23
Psalm 119
Psalm 1:1-3

SECTION VERSE:
Then you will understand what is  right and just and fair—every good path. For wisdom will enter your heart, and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul. – Proverbs 2:9-10

LESSON VERSE:
For this command is a lamp, this teaching is a light, and correction and instruction are the way to life. – Proverbs 6:23

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:

• Read Proverbs 6:12-23 out loud and discuss, verse by verse.
• What are the consequences of sin and wickedness?
• What are some of those things God hates?
• What should we do with God’s wisdom?

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ABOUT FAMILY QUEST: At Reston Bible Church, we firmly believe that parents are a child’s first and most important spiritual leader.  In order to support you that mission, we have created a parent devotional and some discussion starters to go along with each lesson your grade school age children are learning at Quest on Sundays. Our hope and prayer is that this material will help you to engage with your children around the topics they are learning on Sunday mornings, answer their questions, go deeper with them, and find real, day-to-day applications. We are honored to be able to partner with you in the critical task of sharing Christ with the next generation.

LESSON 4: WHAT ARE YOU STORING UP?

Guard your heart for everything you do flows from it. A guard has two functions. The first is to keep out anyone or anything that will cause harm or does not have the owners permission to enter. The second is to allow in those persons or things that the owner has authorized. Why is a guard on the heart so critical? We’ve all used the expression, “garbage in, garbage out,” and are familiar with its implications in any type of analytical task. It can be equally applied to our heart (the biblical center of the will and emotions). How about this positive version of the expression, “Jesus in, Jesus out”? Both are biblical principles are they not? Regulating what goes in to the heart is directly connected to what will come out.

A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. (Luke 6:45)

How does a person guard or protect their heart then? One would be correct to say, “Flee the evil desires of youth!” (2 Tim 2:22) However that is only half of the truth. We are taught by God’s word that lasting heart health can only be achieved when we flee FROM those things of lesser value and TO some One of infinitely greater value. The passage cited above continues, “and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace.” Flee and pursue. How? We flee by creating distance between ourself and temptation, by turning our backs on the twisted values of the world. We pursue by “looking on” Jesus the author and perfecter of our faith, by setting our hearts and minds on things above, by thinking about whatever is “true, noble, right, pure, lovely, and admirable.” Finally, this call to flee and pursue is meant to be carried out in community. Let’s look again at our passage in full, “Flee the evil desires of youth and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.” Let us encourage the children to guard their hearts with us.

BIG IDEA: Wisdom guards my heart.

MEDITATING ON THE WORD:
Proverbs 4:20-27
2 Timothy 2:22
Philippians 4:6-8
Psalm 101:3
Colossians 3:1-2

SECTION VERSE:
Then you will understand what is  right and just and fair—every good path. For wisdom will enter your heart, and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul. – Proverbs 2:9-10

LESSON VERSE:
A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of. – Luke 6:45

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:

• Read Proverbs 4:20-27 out loud and discuss, verse by verse.
• How can we help keep our heart clean?
• Name some things that are not good to put in your heart. How about some good things?
• How can you apply what you learned in Quest this week?

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ABOUT FAMILY QUEST: At Reston Bible Church, we firmly believe that parents are a child’s first and most important spiritual leader.  In order to support you that mission, we have created a parent devotional and some discussion starters to go along with each lesson your grade school age children are learning at Quest on Sundays. Our hope and prayer is that this material will help you to engage with your children around the topics they are learning on Sunday mornings, answer their questions, go deeper with them, and find real, day-to-day applications. We are honored to be able to partner with you in the critical task of sharing Christ with the next generation.

LESSON 3: GOD IS A TRUSTWORTHY GUIDE

Spiritual G.P.S. The God Positioning System. Just like our geographical GPS requires three parts to function correctly, a satellite system, a receiver, and a reliable digital map, so does our spiritual GPS. It begins by having a connection to our heavenly Father through his Son, Jesus. The next piece is the indwelling Holy Spirit to quicken our conscience and open our spiritual eyes. Finally we need a reliable map; God’s living and powerful Word. With these 3 pieces our guidance system is complete.

Any GPS system is only useful if we have it turned on and actually follow the instructions given. However, while global positioning systems have gotten very sophisticated and much more reliable, they can still fail. Not so with our God guidance system. It is completely dependable and rejecting its guidance is the height of foolishness. Why you say? Let’s go back and look at its parts. The character of our heavenly Father, his all-knowing, all-powerful, all-present, and all-loving nature make Him 100% reliable over and against our “own understanding” of our circumstances and the world around us. His thoughts and ways are infinitely higher than ours. Then there is the submissive obedience of the Spirit to the Father and Son. This reassures us that He will only provide the guidance that the Father has spoken. Because they are one in three persons there is no chance of a communication breakdown. Finally, the living and active Word of God, divinely inspired, infallible, and protected through the ages, is given to us as God’s primary means of transforming our hearts and renewing our minds into the image of the Son. We have a reliable road map.

This spiritual GPS is worthy of our complete trust. Don’t second guess it with your own “understanding.” Put it to the test and you will see that it is truly wise to place our faith (confide = with faith) in the guidance of our God. Better yet, encourage the children to do the same and you will have an impact on eternity!

BIG IDEA: Trust in God’s wisdom and He will guide you.

MEDITATING ON THE WORD:
Proverbs 3:1-12

SECTION VERSE:
Then you will understand what is  right and just and fair—every good path. For wisdom will enter your heart, and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul. – Proverbs 2:9-10

LESSON VERSE:
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him and He will make your paths straight. – Proverbs 3:5-6

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:

• Read Proverbs 3:1-12 out loud and discuss, verse by verse.
• What are we told to do with God’s words?
• What does it mean to trust? Who is someone you trust? Why?
• How can you apply what you learned in Quest this week?

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ABOUT FAMILY QUEST: At Reston Bible Church, we firmly believe that parents are a child’s first and most important spiritual leader.  In order to support you that mission, we have created a parent devotional and some discussion starters to go along with each lesson your grade school age children are learning at Quest on Sundays. Our hope and prayer is that this material will help you to engage with your children around the topics they are learning on Sunday mornings, answer their questions, go deeper with them, and find real, day-to-day applications. We are honored to be able to partner with you in the critical task of sharing Christ with the next generation.